Aug. 1, 2022

60 - F the Shoulds. Do the Wants

60 - F the Shoulds. Do the Wants

Did you know that, according to research, we make an average of 35,000 decisions every day. And 226 decisions are about food.

In episode 60, Genny talked about how the decisions around food can be about what you’re eating during the day, or the proverbial “What’s for dinner?” question. It’s also about grocery shopping, or going out for dinner. She also commented that some decisions are not actual decisions because it’s already a habit so you don’t have to think about it. For instance, her drink of choice at Starbucks is a tall dark roast in a grande cup with a little cream (or small dark roast with a little cream at a local coffee shop). It’s what she always gets so she doesn’t have to make a decision.

But when you have more than one option and you can’t decide between the two, you’re in the “sea of indecision”. And that’s when the “should” comes into play. You’re trying to decide if you “should” pick one option or the other. Sometimes, you’ll ask a friend or a stranger or even the person who is taking your order – what you “should” order. You’re looking for validation. Be careful that you don’t allow guilt or pressure or encouraging procrastination when you are “shoulding” your decision such as “I should do my taxes but I feel like watching Netflix.”.

Genny recently read the book, “F the Shoulds. Do the Wants” by Tricia Huffman. In this book, Tricia shares how she struggled with the “shoulds” and even tried to eliminate that word from her vocabulary but found it a bit difficult. She suggests replacing the word “should” (and changing your mindset) to “want”. As in “I want to have this ice cream cone” or “Do I want this ice cream cone?” There’s also the word “need” that speaks to some urgency as in “I need to do my taxes”.

Follow Genny on Instagram at @coffeewithgennyb

If you like this episode, buy Genny as coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/coffeewithgenny

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Did you know that, according to research, we make an average of 35,000 decisions every day. And 226 decisions are about food.

In episode 60, Genny talked about how the decisions around food can be about what you’re eating during the day, or the proverbial “What’s for dinner?” question. It’s also about grocery shopping, or going out for dinner. She also commented that some decisions are not actual decisions because it’s already a habit so you don’t have to think about it. For instance, her drink of choice at Starbucks is a tall dark roast in a grande cup with a little cream (or small dark roast with a little cream at a local coffee shop). It’s what she always gets so she doesn’t have to make a decision.

But when you have more than one option and you can’t decide between the two, you’re in the “sea of indecision”. And that’s when the “should” comes into play. You’re trying to decide if you “should” pick one option or the other. Sometimes, you’ll ask a friend or a stranger or even the person who is taking your order – what you “should” order. You’re looking for validation. Be careful that you don’t allow guilt or pressure or encouraging procrastination when you are “shoulding” your decision such as “I should do my taxes but I feel like watching Netflix.”.

Genny recently read the book, “F the Shoulds. Do the Wants” by Tricia Huffman. In this book, Tricia shares how she struggled with the “shoulds” and even tried to eliminate that word from her vocabulary but found it a bit difficult. She suggests replacing the word “should” (and changing your mindset) to “want”. As in “I want to have this ice cream cone” or “Do I want this ice cream cone?” There’s also the word “need” that speaks to some urgency as in “I need to do my taxes”.

Follow Genny on Instagram at @coffeewithgennyb

If you like this episode, buy Genny as coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/coffeewithgenny

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.