The Truth About Balancing Business and Big Dreams with Megan Tobler

Scottie Durrett  0:06  
welcome to the momplex Podcast. I am your host. Scottie Durrett, my passion and purpose is to help other moms just like me rediscover their joy and step into their confidence as their kids grow up, join me as I share my own experiences, my own mistakes and aha moments as I navigate this incredible journey of motherhood while trying not to lose my identity. If you are a modern day mama who is ready to live for herself, not just for her kids, and knows that is the best possible gift you could give, then you are in the right place. This is momplex. Hey, my beautiful mama, welcome back to another episode of momplex. Really, really special episode for you today. I have an incredible special guest, Megan Tobler. She's host of the self start her podcast, founder of together a vibrant community for women building businesses. I love this support. I love this energy because it's so encouraging, but also being honest of what we're also trying to do at the same time, running households, raising kids, trying to create the dream of our life. And I really am excited because I want Megan, I want you to talk about your own what we just said, messy, beautiful journey, and how you've turned that into your mission to help more moms, more women, chase their dreams and not apologize for that, right, like, not feel guilty that they want both, right? I want both being a mom and I want both scratching all the itches that I've got. So it's really so exciting that you're here, because I want to talk about, like, the behind the scenes of what it looks like to be a mompreneur, so we can support each other, to be stay motivated. How do we manage the juggle and still feel like ourselves no matter what season of life we're in? So I'd love for you to take a minute to introduce yourself to everybody. I'm so glad you're here.

Megan Tobler  1:55  
I'm so glad I'm here, and I am more than happy and willing to get into the beautiful, chaotic mess and like beautifulness that life has created. But yeah, you said it so beautifully. I am the host of the self starter podcast, as well as the founder of the together community, but I will say that it didn't start there. I actually came from a 10 plus year corporate career in sales. I was climbing the corporate ladder. I was chasing the money and the titles. And really was tying my kind of quote, unquote success to like, outside attributes. But I realized that I always wanted to be a mom. I just didn't know how I was going to have both, like you were talking about, how do you have motherhood and the business? And with my current reality of, like, working 24/7 around the clock, because in sales, like, my salary was commission based. That's really where I was able to make multiple six figures. But it came with a price. Like I said, I was working 24/7 I never really took a day off, even vacations. I was still closing deals and working through negotiations. And it just, I mean, even commuting to work, I was going up to three hours on the road each and every day, and I was just scratching my head, how are other moms making this happen? And I just couldn't figure it out. At least with my current reality, there was no way I was going to be able to have that, like corporate success in that Avenue, and have the kind of life as a mom that I wanted. So I took a step back, and I was thinking, Okay, what? What can I do to get me closer to where I want to be? And I honestly didn't know where I was going to go with it, but I decided to take a look at my current skill sets and what I was interested in, and I started interviewing people, and that's really where the podcast was born. It was understanding, okay, this woman clearly was able to have both. How did she make it happen? So I started interviewing the women that left corporate and started a business of their own, and I decided to hit record and share it with the world. And honestly, that's where all this beautiful, chaotic mess started, was just being curious and having that innate desire to want more for my life. There's a lot that's gone on since then, but let's just fast forward. But I was let go from my corporate job while right after announcing my pregnancy, and that changed everything

Scottie Durrett  4:13  
interesting. You know? What I really appreciate, I want to highlight is your outlook at that crossroads, right? So you're sitting here at this place, you're crushing it in your business. It sounds like, you know, you've probably worked your ass off to get yourself to that place. And I think that's something that as a woman, it's hard to walk away from that, right? Because we have blood, sweat and tears our way through high school, college, maybe, you know, additional education. And then we think, Wait, I'm going to walk away from this to go stay at home with my kids. What was it all for? Then, what was the education for? What was the 24 hour late nights, those trips for the sales calls? What was it all for? And so I love how you rather than saying, Well, I guess my choice is either. Stay in this job or have babies, you kind of stepped back and said, How can I redefine this? What's another What could this? What's another possibility here? Have you always been that way? Or was it just the need to try and find a solution? Was so big, because I know there's moms out there who feel so stuck they don't know how to create another solution for them. So I'm just curious what ignited that for you.

Megan Tobler  5:28  
I have to preface this with I think if someone wants to be like the career focused mama, or the stay at home mama, and that's really what you want for your life, like I respect no matter choice that you wanted. But I knew that I wanted a combination of something that would allow me to be like present and at home for my children, but then also to allow me to have a sense of fulfillment of my own outside of my children. And I will also say that if I think that I knew that I wanted this, but I don't know that if I hadn't have been laid off, that I truly would have made that leap, because it really was easy to get, like soaked into, like the money and like the chain the thought of something like so drastically different. And the unknown is definitely scary. So you could think of it when I got laid off as two different scenarios like this happened to me or this happened for me, and I truly believe that my layoff happened for me, because if it wasn't for that instance, I really don't know what my life would look like right now, if I would have ever taken the plunge, I say that I would want to, but would I? I don't know,

Scottie Durrett  6:35  
yeah, yeah, but I love that you took that as an opportunity. You know? Yeah, your hand was forced, but you flipped that. You didn't let that define you and own you. It's that. It's, you know, it's moving out of the victim mentality, which I talk about a lot on my podcast. Because I think when we're exhausted and we're run down and we're trying to carry everything, we need that external validation to tell us like you're doing a good job, you're on the right track, and when we don't get it, it's easy to fall into the why is this happening to me? What you know, life is so unfair. I'm working so hard. Why aren't things working out? And what's beautiful about your story and your mission is shifting that perspective to become more empowering. Like, wait a second, we are way stronger than that. We have so much more power over our results, and we're giving ourselves credit for it. Like, look what we've accomplished. Like, look back on your life, and let's just write a resume for all the stuff that we've already done. We're pretty magnificent

Megan Tobler  7:32  
well, and to that point, too, I think that I've had, obviously, just like you, a lot of conversations with numerous women out there, and sometimes women are stuck because they think that they have nothing of value to bring to the table, even if you're a single or even if you're a stay at home mom who has never held a full time like traditional job, you have skill sets, and that's something that I really want to emphasize, is that if you have a passion and desire to have a business of Your Own, you are the CEO of your family. You're maybe are paying the bills. You are the bookkeeper. You are the chauffeur, because you've been like you understand how to keep a schedule, because you're toting your kids to and from soccer practice, like you know how to keep things systematized and organized like you are the CEO of your household. So I just want to also say that, because I know especially when people are thinking about, what would I start there's something for everyone out there. Some people need help in all different areas, because we're not all experts, and we're not all like we don't all have the same areas of genius as one another. So we need what you have to offer, and sometimes you might not realize what your area of genius is, just because it comes so naturally to you.

Scottie Durrett  8:44  
I love that. That's such a great message. I'm so glad you pointed that out, because it is. It's such a good reminder, right? For us to recognize something that comes so easily to us might not come to somebody else, and that's what makes us each so powerful, right? We're given these gifts and these interests, and that's really helped me so much with my journey, is just trusting my own gut. What lights me up? What do I want to learn about and why? Why do I want to read that book or listen to that podcast? There's a reason, right? It's nurturing something that makes us individuals, and that's such a good reminder that it's we're all so powerful. And you know, I love for women too, to be this supportive and to be this encouraging, because this stage of life no one really prepares you for the insecurities, the vulnerability, the identity shifts that are taking place, and we're all, I guess, expected to kind of just figure it out inside our homes by ourselves and what I'm so thankful with your community and your podcast is you're bringing a lot of this to light, and so you're helping moms and women feel less alone. Because I'm sure a thought that's running through someone's head like I don't have anything to offer, another mom has thought that too, right? So what if we can start supporting and encouraging each other? And I think it's really important for somebody who feels comfortable. People sharing their story, like you to do it as much as possible, because your story could change another mom's life. And I think we're all really in this together,

Megan Tobler  10:09  
hence the name of my community, because truly, we are doing this together, but you're talking about identity shifts there. And I'm like nodding my head, because becoming a mom in itself as a huge identity shift, you can't really mentally prepare yourself for what's coming, because you don't know the person that you're going to be once you become her. And then also I, not only did I become like a mom in the same time as I also became an entrepreneur. So I went through just like two babies, two babies all at once, like this massive identity shift of who am I outside of, like, the traditional corporate world? Like, like, the biggest thing that I struggled with, and I honestly still struggle with today, just because people don't always understand what I do without more of an explanation. It's easy. When someone asks you on the streets, so what do you do? And you say, Oh, I'm in sales, like, and because, like, I could go into my elevator pitch, but if I didn't want to, like you, say I'm in sales, you're like, Okay, if you want to know more, I go ahead and tell you now it's a little bit more of a like, in depth. There's more of a complicated version of myself, but in the most beautiful way, I it's not a simple answer for me anymore. It's not like, I'm not I'm in sales. No, I'm a mom, I'm an entrepreneur. I help women like all these different things, and I think that the identity shift is not talked about enough, because the person that you were pre kids is completely different than who you will become post kids. And you really can't, like I said, you can't prepare because you haven't met her yet,

Scottie Durrett  11:40  
and you haven't met your kid yet either. Yes, you know, we I always joke with my husband, you know, I was so obsessed with reading every baby book I could get my hands on before my first child was born, because I was anxious, and I thought if I had more information, then I wouldn't, I wouldn't kill her. She wouldn't fall in the toilet and drown, right? I just was so concerned about everything, and I was not sleeping well, and I was starting to panic. And I remember he came and took the books for me, and he was like, Stop, you've never been a mom, and this person has never existed. These books aren't even written about her. They're written about a general energy of a child. But what we need to do is listen to her and listen to you. That took so much pressure off of me, because I was like, Oh, wait, we're kind of all going through this together. That was a big shift for me to not expect that I was going to have all the answers day one. And I think because we're women, are very high functioning, we're very capable, we are very hard working as general gender and I think we are able to carry a lot. And so we have very high expectations of ourselves. If I'm going to do this, I'm going to do it 110% just the way it's if I'm going to work out, I'm going to work out till I'm sweating on the floor. If I'm going to eat, I'm going to eat healthy. If I'm going to run a business, it's going to be the best version of that business it could be, right? And so then we expect, okay, great. I'm starting it. Okay, it's gonna be all figured out. It's gonna be easy, it's gonna be successful. I'm not gonna have any mistakes, I'm not gonna have any regrets, I'm not gonna have any stumbles. And then what happens? The stumbles happen, and then we think, Oh, I'm the problem. There's something wrong with me. And I think what's really important, especially for you, who you are raising a child and you're raising a business at the same time. None of this has ever existed before, so you don't have a blueprint. You are writing it. You are authoring this story as you go along, which is flipping amazing that we even have this opportunity. I love it, but I want us to be honest about the ups and the downs and how we still keep going. It's hard to stay motivated, especially when you open up Instagram and you're looking at this mom, and she's like, Yeah, I had a retreat, and I had 20 people here, and we made $5 million and you're thinking, I could never do that. But then what about the mom who shows up and she's holding her baby and she's like, Y'all assign a client today, like, and I put my kid down for a nap. I'm basically a genius, right? And I think those kinds of real life conversations are what will be so encouraging for other moms to step into their genius and be brave. What are some of the biggest surprises? I guess, are your biggest challenges that you've faced as you've been trying to juggle becoming a new mom and building this brand new business.

Megan Tobler  14:24  
Well, I will say it's, it's a juggle, just like you said, because I'm an achiever by nature, like you said, I am one of those women that like I think if I'm going to do it, I'm going to do it, but honestly, I think that a lot of us that actually prevents us from getting started in the first place. So I've actually had to scrap that out and just say, like, I'm going to do this, but I'm going to do it on my terms. Because, like, you're talking about social media, like, if you compare yourself to these other people, you're just dooming yourself to fail and to, like, get in that state of, like, anxiousness comparison, if used in a good way. Day Like, could be very helpful, because it's like inspiration of like, what to go to, but it also can take you down a really negative rabbit hole. So something that I really had to focus on right now is staying in my lane and putting my waters on, because everyone is in a different season of life, and my current season is I built this entire business and podcast while I was either pregnant or newly parsed postpartum, and now I'm literally chasing around a 20 month old who was my boss. So my day looks very different than someone that has maybe been in business for 10 years and doesn't have any kids. So it's like, Okay, I just have to put my blinders on and do me and what works for this season in my life. What that looks like is like making sure that I'm really prioritizing what matters most. Not every day is a day where I can get a ton of tasks done. So I have to think about, okay, what are the like? Maybe one to three most important things that I can get done today, and focus on those. Because that's a win to me. Everything else is a bonus. So again, it's just that has been something that I've really had to learn is like blinders and time prioritization, because I don't know if I'm gonna get 30 minutes, I don't know if I'm gonna get an hour or three hours every single day. So you just gotta work with what you've got and recognize that this is a season, and one day we were talking about this pre record, but like, it's always, like, you're always going to enter a new stage with your children, but there's always something else that's going to add to it. So it's like just embracing what is, you know,

Scottie Durrett  16:32  
I love that you're really allowing this to your life, to be your life, right? And it's really pretty because it's it, first of all, it's so relaxing when you listen to it, because it feels so possible, right? Like you're creating space in your day for you to hold all the things that you want to hold. And you know, I think for a lot of moms, they're chasing this perfect balance. But sometimes balance looks like 90% of my time today was for my kid. That's what balance needed for me today and allowing it and not shaming ourselves for it. And you know what you said at the comparison is like, that's the first thing we should remove.

Megan Tobler  17:10  
Well, and I will say like I mentioned, I was an achiever, so sometimes it is difficult for me to realize that I have a to do list a mile long, and nothing really got accomplished that day. But you know what did get accomplished? I was present for my son because he really needed really needed me so that, in my opinion, is like, My number one job right now is to be there and to raise a really good human my secondary job is to be able to pour into all these incredible women inside the community and to highlight their stories on the podcast. That is, like my that's really like, what lights me up, and what I really get joy from is, is doing that. But I also want to talk about the fact that when I decided what I wanted to do in this season of motherhood, I made sure that I was creating a business that fit into the life that I wanted, rather than putting myself into the business and, like, figuring out a way to make it work. And I think that's how I've been able to do it, is I've built this entire mechanism, I guess, around the life that I wanted to create so I could be present for my son 90% of the day. And I think that's something if being a mom is important to you, and really that's your number one priority. I think when people set out to start these businesses that's so important is to be able to make sure that you are building something that gives you all the things on your checkbox that like you're checking off. It's not just like causing you to like, be away from your kids even more, and then just basically you've created another nine to five for

Scottie Durrett  18:37  
yourself. So really getting clear on your priorities, right? Like, really getting clear on what, what are you building and why, right? Like, what is that day? And I think what you've done a really good job of is finding what lights you up and brings you joy, so that when you are away from your child, you are filling up your cup still, right? So it's you're not necessarily walking into a job that you resent, a job that you hate, which is an energy drain, right? And then so you're fulfilling your own buckets, like you're filling your lack, which is such a beautiful model for moms. You know? It's like, how can we empower ourselves and create that inner Zen and trust that what our inner genius is there for a reason? And I think that's so nice, because then it removes the shame and the guilt, right? Of course, yes, we want to be with our kids, 24/7, and when we're with our kids, we're thinking, oh my gosh, I got to get on that podcast and check all those things off. It's definitely habits to get used to. It's that conversation that you have with yourself, right? Like you were saying, this is just what today looks like. And I'm going to be okay with that. I want to talk about the community. I want to talk about that because this is really such a beautiful, first of all, community. More than anything, I think moms understand we are a part of one of the coolest clubs that have has ever been generated in the world. Maybe. Our 24 hours each day looks different, but when our head hits the pillow, I bet we all want the same thing, to raise incredible humans and to provide our kids with everything that we could ever provide and to love them silly, right? Like we just want to create that environment. I think a lot of times, moms get caught up in their autopilot day and end up having conversations only with toddlers, and they feel very disconnected from life, and their only connection is grabbing their phone right watching scrolling on social media or watching reality TV. Hello. But I think a lot of times we can forget that there is another person out there who's like, Girl, I get it. I'm having the same day. Let's do it together. So talk to me about the community. How did it get born? How can she get involved, and what is it doing for her?

Megan Tobler  20:47  
Well, I think that a lot of us have all created something out of a need that we personally had. And I talked about when I went into motherhood, it was an identity shift, and that was also a period of where I was really alone, just like the same thing that I experienced when I was let go of my corporate job and jumped into entrepreneurship. It was very lonely in corporate I had a built in, like family kind of quote, but like, where I was able to collaborate and touch base with during the day, even though I was working remotely already, I felt connected. And when I lost that, it felt like empty, honestly. And again, when you're entering into motherhood, they don't talk about this, but you're up at all hours of the night when the world is sleeping, all the lights are off, and you're completely alone with you and your child. And so I, I was sitting there, and I knew that I'd already had this podcast, and I knew what lit me up was these women and these stories, and the more like I entered into this motherhood era, the more and more I was attracting these moms into my world, and I was seeing the impact it was having on me personally, being connected to these women that have gone through things ahead of me, and how it was helping me not only grow in my business, but also in my personal life. So as I was thinking about the next level I wanted to take this business. It was a no brainer question like answer. I knew I wanted to create a space for these women to be able to connect with each other, but I didn't want it to just be a business community, and I didn't want it to just be a mother community, because I'm a complex being as I know how many other women are, and I wanted both, but having both, it's possible, but it looks different than maybe what you imagined when you weren't one, or when you weren't just one. Now you're both, so it's like, I can have both, it just looks totally differently. So inside the community, first of all, I'm not claiming to have it all figured out. Like I'm the first one to tell you that, like it's messy, it's beautiful, it's chaotic, but it's real, and it's raw and it's vulnerable, and that's what I was looking for. I'm an aggregator. I'm a connector. So I am not claiming to be like the expert at everything, but what I am an expert at is bringing the right people into the room. And so like you, Scotty, I know you're coming in to be a guest speaker in one of our master classes. So I'm bringing in women like you, who are who are moms and experts at their craft, to be able to help these women in business and in life. So in one month, we might be talking about like your email copy or your your sales page. Another one might be like time management as a mom and setting setting boundaries, to be able to make sure that we're really encapsulating this entire woman and all of her needs, because she can have both. But it looks very differently than the other experts that are out there, where they're just saying, hustle harder. We can't hustle harder. Like we're like, we're do more. We can't do more. We're already doing everything. So how can you be more efficient with the time that you have and have everything that you've ever wanted? Essentially, that's what we're bringing into life in the community.

Scottie Durrett  23:51  
Oh my gosh, yes. Is that your mission statement that should be on, like, billboards everywhere, right? I love it. Good thing it's recorded, because I don't even remember what I just said, yeah, good thing. It's recorded Well, you know? And I think what is the real, beautiful message is, what you want is okay, it's okay to want it, right? I think that's something for a long time, you know, I'm 48 so I'm Gen X, and when I became a mom, I had several people come up to me and say, Well, hope you had fun, because your life is over now. And at first I followed into that. I said, Yes, absolutely. And then I started to feel very frustrated and disconnected and very lost, because that wasn't really my blueprint, my formula. I also like you, like to stay connected to myself as a human and also be the best mom. And I know if I learn how to do that my way, that does allow me to be the best mom. And I felt a lot of guilt wanting more than just motherhood, because a lot of people told me how lucky you are. You know, many people cannot have babies, so you should be so blessed. And if you. Want more. There's that's a you problem, and you should go figure that out, until eventually, I just had to be brave and face this grief and face this shame and realize, Wait, this isn't this isn't shameful. I am actually yelling less. I'm sleeping better. I'm laughing more. I'm more present with my kids. I don't wish the moments away. I'm not waiting till nap time or bedtime because I'm so unbelievably tired. And when I started talking about it, other moms started saying, me too, you know, me too. And then I felt less alone and I felt less afraid. So kind of to your point, if you're not even sure what you want to do, but you know you you're meant for more. Start there and join this community, and then you'll realize, Wait, there are other people just like me. This isn't as scary as I thought, right? First

Megan Tobler  25:46  
of all, I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. I know that that's unfortunately the norm. Like a lot of people choose to to put their values on other people, and it's like, you just have to do you. But mom's like, no matter what we're we do, someone's going to have an opinion. You want to climb the corporate ladder, then you're not a present mom. If you want to be a stay at home mom, then you're not ambitious. And like, there's just the list goes on and on. But the reality is is, like, everyone's going to do what's best for them, and there's no right or wrong way do any of this. But if you do have, like, that little little itch inside of you that, like, you want to be, like, more of a stay at home mom, and you also want to have a business. I'm here to tell you you can you can't, and that's like, if you need help and support, that's what the community was for. So it's, I would like, I could name off all the benefits that you get inside of it. But honestly, it's more of a feeling. It's more of like the feeling you get when you're connected to all these people. There's a ton of communities out there, and I'm an advocate for joining a bunch, seeing where, like, where you connect with people, and in, like, going all in on those places, like you can't just have one, and that's why I also really wanted to make sure when I did this community, much to a lot of people's advice not to do but it was very important to me to have a free option inside this community. I can't tell you how many people told me I was making a mistake by doing that, that I needed to monetize from day one, and it didn't feel right. And I again, I created this because I wanted something that I needed, and I knew when I was let go and a new mom, I didn't have the funds to invest into something else, but I knew I had the drive and the initiative to be able to get to where I wanted to go. And so I believe that there's plenty of abundance to go around for everyone. And I know you do the same, Scottie, so it's like, I believe what comes around goes around, and if you are looking for a place where you can feel seen and supported, and also to have the resources that you need in order to, like, elevate your life and your business, like, there is an entry level way to get that, but if you even want to take it a step further, when you do have the funds that you can invest, then you'll get even more value. But like, there's a spot for everyone inside of this, so it's just a very easy way to be able to make sure like you are seen, heard and supported.

Scottie Durrett  28:08  
I love it. I'm so glad you trusted your gut. What a beautiful example of how you were talking about you kept your blinders on, right? You stayed in your lane, and you trusted yourself, and now you don't have any regrets about it. And I think you know, even thinking about when we were in high school, the peer pressure, right? Whenever I let myself get peer pressured, I always regretted it, and I just knew deep down that I knew what was best for me, and I just over time, you practice listening, moms, we can do the same thing, just like you said, everyone will have an opinion, but if you feel good about like when you lay your head on the pillow at night, and you're like, you know what? Maybe all they did was eat a saltine cracker, but they ate and we got to watch a movie on the sofa together. Like I am mom of the year. I feel so good about that 100%

Megan Tobler  28:49  
but I will say, like, from a business perspective, like that maybe wasn't like the decision that was going to get me to where I wanted to financially be as fast as possible. It's definitely the long play. But I believe that you have to do like, what feels right for you, and like again, what comes around goes around, so it I will get, I'm not there yet, but I will get to the financial number that I want to be at, but it's going to be based on like, goodness and heart. It's not going to be about just like I really want to put I just want to create a place for everyone to be able to get the support that they need. And I have to believe in myself. You

Scottie Durrett  29:28  
know, you have it in your vision. You know exactly what this community is supposed to look and feel like, coming from your heart, right? You already know it. And I think you're trusting yourself that that's it's inevitable it will be a success if you're doing it your way. And yes, it might take longer than some of those gurus on social media, but maybe that's the perfect divine timing that's meant for you, right? And I think there's also we have to trust that things come to us when we're ready for it, and we also have to trust that things. Will develop. You know, in our favor. I always believe that the universe has our back. Going through this right now, my daughter's 18. We just went through the college application process, which personally was brutal, and I'm going to do a podcast come to me if you have college age. I mean, if you're thinking about college, I'll help you through it. You can learn from my mistakes. But there was a lot of colleges that rejected her, and it was gutting. And I'm sitting here keeping, you know, sitting on my hands, just trying to keep quiet, and I'm like, it's gonna work out. It's gonna work out. She wasn't ready to hear that. She needed to go through it and come to that realization herself. And so it took a little longer for her to get to that understanding that she's gonna end up exactly where she's meant to end up. And I think we have to trust that all of that information comes to us when we're ready, right? Like all of it comes to your kid learns how to swim when they're ready to learn how to swim, right? Your business will knock you know, it'll be a seven figure business when you're ready, and you have the capacity for it, and it's just developing and growing. And I think we have to trust that timing, that what's like, what is playing out for us is exactly what's meant to be, and life is happening for us, not to us, right? How? If I have some moms listening, I have a lot of moms in my community who are solely stay at home. Moms, I've got a blend of the working from home mom and then some working out of the house. Moms, what does it look like to get involved, and how would they like? Where should they start if they wanted to learn more about the community?

Megan Tobler  31:24  
Well, first of all, you can go to self starter.com/together, and that's where you'll be able to find all the information right then. And there you'll be able to get tapped into immediately, the virtual network. So you can go and chat with other women and see who's inside. So that way you can, you can, you can get a feel for, like, who your people are, and I actually encourage you to connect with them outside the community too. That's where, like, a lot of the magic happens. And obviously, like you and I met inside of like minded collective, and I 100% love that community, and just like the connections that came from that are everything, and we've been able to take this relationship outside. So start with that, and then also attend our networking calls. It's once a month live. We do make sure that everyone gets the spotlight, to be heard and to be seen, like I was talking about once a month master classes, sometimes too, if we have extra month week in the month. So the I'll always love those we have coaching. So I bring in some of those, like high level coaches that have high ticket prices that us new business owners and moms like can't afford on a one to one basis. So we're giving to that to you at an extremely affordable rate on a monthly basis. It's been very transformational, and this has been, this is our second month inside the community. So we've done two sessions so far, and they have been an absolute hit. And people are just like craving this information. So again, it's just bringing all these different resources that normally you would have to pay for and pay quite a bit of money for to you for either free or at literally $19 a month, or 190 a year, if you pay in full. So it's like, honestly, a cup of, like, maybe a cup and a half of coffee. I don't even know,

Scottie Durrett  33:07  
is that two Starbucks, right? The $20 a month, is that two Starbucks right?

Megan Tobler  33:12  
So, like, obviously, I could, I could talk about the value all day. But again, it's like, how you want to feel and like, how you want to be heard and seen as, like, you're in the stage of motherhood and and entrepreneurship as well.

Scottie Durrett  33:24  
I really am. I admire you offering the free entry, because I love that a woman wouldn't have to say no because of that, right? Like she gets to still feel included and a part of it, even if she's day one of her business, or she just dreamed up her business last night, right? And so I think that's a beautiful opportunity that you're offering moms, especially if somebody wants to just come in and, you know, Judge around and see if this is the right community for me and take a master class, you know. And I do want to just second to what you said, not only are these resources that you're bringing into this community. It's priceless. A lot of these coaches, a lot of these speakers won't do these types of events unless you pay them, you know, a good amount of money. So the fact that you have exposure to that is incredible, especially in an intimate environment, which is so out, it's amazing. But there's going to be a lot of mom new moms, new entrepreneurs, who don't even know what they don't know. And in your community, you're sharing information with them that they would never have even thought of, right? So your expertise and you're bringing people together and identifying, oh my gosh, this is a great topic. I know this is going to resonate. I think that's so empowering, because it means that she doesn't have to do that work totally.

Megan Tobler  34:40  
And I also want to highlight too something that I actually haven't announced anywhere yet is we're doing an online virtual summit as a way to get introduced into the community, but everything for an entire week straight. This is going to be completely different than what we typically do, but it's designed to be able to kind of give you that little umph that you need in your business, in your life, but every. Day. The whole theme is, if I only had 30 minutes a day, this is what I would do. So these guest speakers are going to come in, and they're going to come in and talk about a specific topic and say, like, okay, if I'm a busy mom and I only had 30 minutes to maybe focus on PR, this is what I would focus on. This is the most important activity. And so we'll have that for business, like, we're having a time management person coming in. So every day there'll be two different for a week straight, two different recorded sessions that you can listen to or watch at your own, at leisure. Because obviously, like, as a mom, I understand, like, you can't always come at live and making sure that these are, like, super impactful short straight to the point, and I'm really excited, because we just brought on Marina Middleton from create and cultivate the CEO as our keynote speaker for it. So it's just like talking about timing, like sometimes it was, it's like pinch me moment sometimes, to realize that things are happening at the right time as they should. But again, we're just designing this truly for the mama the business

Scottie Durrett  36:03  
I love it, that is going to be so helpful and so interesting. I will definitely be there that I love that if you had 30 minutes a day, because, like you said, that might be all you get so and that way, if you know that, you accomplish that check and you can move on with your life without, you know, second guessing, or leaving part of your soul at your laptop and trying to go show up, you know, and take care of your kids. I love that so much. If they click the link to your community, all that information will be available to them. Well, this has been incredible. Is there any other thing, I guess, if you only had 30 minutes a day, what would you focus on if you had 30 minutes a day to focus on building your community right now, what would you do? What would your 30 minutes be?

Megan Tobler  36:48  
Right now, my focus is getting on shows like this, because I've learned that. I know that visibility is important in order to like, get more like people to be alerted, I guess, of what you're doing. But I also learned that I don't enjoy being on social media every day that I tried that for a while, and it was it drained me. So right now, it's visibility, so it's getting in front of podcasts like this, and also like different PR strategies, so that that's really what my number one focus is right now, as far as, like, just getting the word out, just because there's so many incredible women inside the community that it's not about me, I feel like I'm helping them by getting the word out, because I'm just then attracting more incredible women with each other.

Scottie Durrett  37:38  
I love it. You're paying it forward. It's beautiful. Well, Megan, you are a bundle of energy. It's like I have a smile on my face this whole conversation. I love what you're building. I think it's absolutely needed. There's going to be a lot of women out there who this is exactly what they didn't know they needed. And so all links will be in the show notes, so you can follow the podcast, you can join the community, learn more about it, and I'm just so happy. Is there any way that they can reach you or connect with you outside of those two links? Are those the best places to go?

Megan Tobler  38:07  
Instagram is probably where I'm the most responsive as far as just like a casual chat, but you can always send me an email hello@selfstarter.com and I'm responsive there too, but Scotty, but I this is something that I'm gonna just throw out there, but you are just an incredible woman, for starters, but like, just the most amazing host of a podcast. So just want to throw that out, because I know after I hit record and if sometimes, if I get a compliment, I'm like, Oh, I kind of wish that was recorded. I wanted to make sure that this is recorded for you, because you're just amazing at your craft and what you do. So thank you so much for hitting our cord on conversations like this all the time.

Scottie Durrett  38:43  
Well, you're so sweet. It's easy when I get to talk to people like you, it makes me pinch myself. Is this really my job? I'm so lucky. Thank you so much. You're incredible. Definitely check out all the links in the show notes. Megan's changing the world for us mamas.

Scottie Durrett  38:59  
Hey mama. Thank you so much for listening before you dive back into the beautiful chaos of your life, please take this with you. You're doing better than you think. You are not alone, and you do not have to do this on autopilot. If this episode helped you in any way, please share it with a mom who needs to hear it, because we grow faster when we do it together. And if you have a second, leaving a five star review helps momplex reach more mamas who need this kind of real talk and support. If you want more support and guidance or just someone in your corner, be sure to visit scottyderette.com to learn more. Get in touch with me or dive deeper into this work until next time mom, Trust yourself, trust your gut. You already know what to do, and you are exactly the mama your kids need. I love you. I'll see you next time you.